Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart!
Some of you have heard that verse all your life. Some of you may have never heard that verse. Either way, I want to share what God has revealed to me over time about it.
When I first read this as a teenager I read it as “If you do what you are supposed to do, then God will give you what you want.” How many of you thought like this?! Don’t lie!! lol What a deceitful lie from the enemy!
What I have come to see over time and God continues to remind me over time, is that He is our Father. He is good and he loves us. He wants what is BEST for us. What he knows we NEED. He is not Santa Clause. We can’t give him a wish list and he makes all your dreams come true. How terrible things would be if he did.
The reality is that God, our Father, knows us better than we know ourselves. He also knows the future. And he knows his ultimate plan for us and His world.
So from that perspective let’s look at that verse again:
Delight yourself in the Lord –
What does that look like for you?
Maybe it’s a daily quiet time (this is vital for all of us in our walks, but not necessarily the only way to delight)
Maybe it’s writing, drawing, running. Maybe it’s sitting outside and soaking in His creation. In each and EVERY MOMENT we should be delighting in God just like a little girl delights in showing off her new ballet moves for her daddy.
For those that didn’t have this moment because of circumstances beyond your control, a healing must take place (but that is another post for another time).
and He will give you the desires of your heart –
See when we read this we think of our heart’s “wish list”.
I wish I could get a new job. I wish my husband would just listen to me better. I wish I could lose 20 lbs. I wish I made enough money to enjoy life. I wish I could adopt. Our list isn’t necessarily bad. It can even be really good. But the question is, is it from God? God knows what we need. He knows how he answers our prayer doesn’t just affect us but it affects others around us. It is all a part of his plan.
So when it says he will give you the desires of your heart what this means is that as you delight yourself in the Father, you will become like him. Your hearts desire will begin to mimic his hearts desire. What delights him will delight you and what breaks his heart will break your heart.
Let me tell you a story:
When I was a teenager all I ever wanted was to get married and have a baby. I wanted a family. I was in and out of relationships searching for this. I would think, “I love God. I live for Him. I read my bible. I am involved in my church. Surely God wants to give me my heart’s desire.” Through failed relationships I began to see that God’s will for me was not for me to be happy. His will was for me to be holy. In that holiness I would find true joy and nothing temporary.
My senior year of college I met Blaine. I was officially done in my heart with relationships. I had finally arrived at a place of finding my identity in Christ and not in relationships. So we became friends. It took me almost a whole year to agree to go on a date with him because I wanted God’s will. My heart’s desire was still to be married and have kids, but I grew weary of trying to do it my way and finally came to a place of surrender. A year later we were married. Our marriage hasn’t been perfect, or even easy, but he makes me strive for holiness. He is not the most romantic guy. He isn’t the guy I dreamed of who does all the right things at the right times. I even get on his nerves sometimes (hehe). But in the end, delighting in God gave me His heart’s desire for me and my life. And now I am closer to God than I have ever been. We are raising our kids to love God and live for him. If I fell into my heart’s desires as a teenager or young adult, I truly think that I would be out of the will of God right now.
Isn’t God good? As we delight in him, he also delights in us!
The Lord your God is with you,
the Mighty Warrior who saves.
He will take great delight in you;
in his love he will no longer rebuke you,
but will rejoice over you with singing.
It’s not a one-way street. He doesn’t want us to become like him just for his pleasure, but because he knows ultimately it will bring us the most joy and bring us to a place that is more like Jesus than we were before.